This page is a gift to you.
Over the last dozen years I have been developing a body of work, which I call the Wheel of Consent.
Here are a few short videos I made for all the folks who were asking about it and wanted to use it and share it — all 7 hours or so.
The videos are fine, the ideas are fine – but it’s the experience of it that will change you. You have to feel it in your skin.
(Many folks have asked for a printable diagram, so here it is – but it’s still the experience that matters – when your hands get it, you get it.)
I hope you have a great time playing with it.
Thank you, Betty
WANT-TO AND WILLING-TO: What’s the difference and why does it matter?
RECEIVING AND GIVING: Not what you might think!
FOLLOWING THE PLEASURE: What is pleasure and what does it mean to ‘follow’ it?
The geekery behind it ~ what is happening here?
The Taking Role
The Allowing Role
The Receiving Role
The Giving Role
The Wheel of Consent and the 4 quadrants
The dynamic between these two halves
The Receiving Half
The Giving Half
The Doing Half
The Done-to Half
The 4 Quadrants ~ themes, challenges, possibilities, erotic elements, spiritual principles and shadows of each:
Some thoughts on the Taking Quadrant with my friend Harry Faddis, who invented the 3 Minute Game.
BONUS! A nice long conversation with Harry Faddis, the inventor of the 3-Minute Game