Like a Pro:
The Wheel of Consent for Professionals

BIPOC-only edition

Oakland, California, USA

April 5-9, 2025
10am-6pm each day

Like a Pro brings the transformative model of the Wheel of Consent to professionals working with topics of consent, boundaries, relational intimacy, body sovereignty, trauma recovery, sexuality, communication, and touch. Originally developed for touch practitioners of all stripes, we have  expanded to include non-touch professionals as well. We welcome consent educators, intimacy coaches, intimacy consultants, psychotherapists, physicians, tantra practitioners, intimacy guides and providers, counselors, teachers, coaches, and just about anybody working with people.

Read more about Like a Pro and see our full schedule, our Covid protocols, cost, and application.

A space for Black, Indigenous and People of Color to learn the Wheel of Consent® together, facilitated by an all-BIPOC teaching team.

We know that it can be more spacious, relaxing and nourishing to be in a learning space with a group you are part of, whether that's based on gender, sexuality, race, culture or other things. Because sometimes it allows questions and discussions to arise that otherwise would not.

This Like a Pro for BIPOC only is a unique space that centers our lived experience of systems of oppression and how that shapes our relationships and interactions, including how we hold consent and boundaries. This is the first time this training has been offered led by an all-BIPOC teaching team. In this caucus space we will ground in the framework of the Wheel of Consent as a tool for our collective liberation, as well as a way to understand both our challenges and joys in relationship with others.

"Being in a space that centers the experience of People of Color has made it possible for me to access the liberatory framework of the Wheel of Consent. I have learned so much from Carmen's teaching and facilitation in two previous Like a Pro workshops and am honored to assist her on this one."  - René Rivera

"I loved the material that Carmen brought. I loved how she included systems of oppression and how someone can even know what a yes or no is, if you've been socialized to ignore your own needs. The material totally rocked my world." - S.J.

“It was truly transformative for my first Like a Pro courses to be the first BIPOC spaces hosted by the School of Consent. As someone who came into the experience knowing I would be taking this work back to my community of mostly Black mostly Queer folks in Washington, DC, it brought a knowing sense of ease and connectedness to be able to speak to these nuances within a room of humans who would be doing the same for people who make up their communities, clients and loved ones. I am honored to be a member of this team of individuals who carry their identities with them into this work.” - Jax

The teaching team:

Lead Faculty: Carmen Leilani De Jesus
Assisted by Wheel of Consent® Workshop Facilitators-In-Training: Jax, René Rivera and Tunde J.O.

About Carmen (she/her)
Carmen has been working with Betty Martin since 2013 and the School of Consent since its inception in 2018. Her lens on the Wheel of Consent centers somatic discernment, reclaiming agency and consent as a practice of decolonization of the body.  She is excited to lead this training after being on the teaching team for the 2023 and 2024 BIPOC-only Like A Pro cohorts. She has been mentored and trained in the Wheel of Consent® framework by both Dr. Betty Martin and Robyn Dalzen, and brings insights from her own lived experience as a neurodivergent, 2nd generation Filipina-American, survivor of child abuse, sexual assault and breast cancer. In addition to teaching groups and coaching leaders, Carmen also hosts "Wheel of Consent conversations" as Instagram livestreams on the @thewheelofconsent account, where she invites colleagues and other professionals to chat about the broader contexts, applications and impacts of consent education and consent culture. More here and here.

About Jax (she/her)
Wheel of Consent Workshop Facilitator-In-Training, Pleasure Facilitator and self-proclaimed DC Cuddle Ambassador, Jax is dedicated to fostering safer, inclusive spaces for pleasure, intimacy and connection as a Consent and Intimacy Coach, Guide, Educator, Consultant, and Platonic and Erotic Bodyworker and Companion. Specializing in facilitating somatically focused coaching and practice with individuals and groups, Jax's work aims to empower Black, POC, Queer, and gender expansive communities primarily along the East Coast.

René Rivera (he, him)
René is a meditation teacher and restorative justice facilitator working and learning in all the spaces in-between race, gender, and other perceived binaries, as a queer Latinx trans man. René teaches heart-centered, trauma-informed meditation, as a core teacher at the East Bay Meditation Center. He has co-led the first residential meditation retreats for transgender, nonbinary and gender expansive people, and offers classes and retreats for many Buddhist centers and groups. René is a restorative justice facilitator for the Ahimsa Collective, working to heal sexual and gender based violence.

About Tunde (Maer/Mer, She/Her)
Tunde is a facilitator and coach with a focus on identity, consent, and dismantling systemic oppression. She helps clients recognize their individual relationships to power, and then offers tools for addressing their histories and socializations so they can make strong choices and take needed steps toward their own (and therefore our collective) liberation. Maer also supports organizations and collectives in recognizing and removing barriers to healthier culture and connection through consultation, facilitation, and training.  Tunde, also an educator, and visual/performing artist, holds a BFA from Washington University in St. Louis, is a certified Diversity Facilitrainer with NCCJ St. Louis, a certified Big Leap Coach through the Hendricks Institute, a certified Urban Tantra Practitioner, a STARLING Healer, and a Wheel of Consent Workshop facilitator in training.

Will the course content differ from the usual Like a Pro?

The Wheel of Consent® remains the same and the basic course content remains the same, although the insights may differ according to the lived experience of our teaching teams. As with every Like A Pro, discussion can be diverse and emergent depending on what is presenced in reflections and questions, including dynamics and feelings which may arise in this cohort that otherwise would not, and if so, we will honor and follow those as needed.

How do we register?

The same way as usual - by reading the group agreements and covid protocols, filling out the application (you can do that further down on this page, or on the main Like A Pro page); after that, we have a conversation to be sure we are a good fit. Carmen will be offering those conversations.

Is there financial assistance available:

Yes. The School of Consent offers this training with a self-selected sliding scale that begins at a 50% discount off the standard price. In the event you have additional needs for support, please mention it in your interview with Carmen and we will look at options.

If you are able to pay the full price or more, this supports the School in our robust efforts to offer financial accessibility for our trainings. 

For more:

Here's an article written by a woman of color, that goes more deeply into this question. https://arrow-journal.org/why-people-of-color-need-spaces-without-white-people/