What is the School of Consent?
The School of Consent is a training organization promoting the values and skills of the Wheel of Consent, as developed by Dr. Betty Martin. We offer courses, events, coaching and consulting for professionals, individuals & couples, and businesses.
What is the Wheel of Consent?
The Wheel of Consent (also referred to as ‘the Wheel’ or the ‘WoC’) is a model of consent based on, but not requiring, exchanges of touch. The Wheel notes the distinction between the ‘doing’ aspect of the touch dynamic — who is doing — and the ‘gift’ aspect — who it is for.
Once the distinction between those two aspects is clear, the entire touch dynamic becomes clear, which brings ease, sensuality, confidence, self-responsibility and freedom to the interaction.
When the dynamics are clear, it becomes apparent how they apply to both touch and non-touch dynamics. Indeed, the application to non-touch dynamics may be of greater import.
Using the Wheel of Consent as a framework, we are committed to teaching and promoting:
- Clarity around Receiving and Giving – distinguishing between who is doing and who it is for
- Creating clear agreements based on transparent communication
- Awareness of sensation in the body
- An expanded ability to Receive, respecting the limits of the Giver
- An expanded ability to Give, and be generous and compassionate
- Connection, compassion and intimacy
- Skills of empowerment
- Understanding and integrating the ‘shadow’ aspects of each of the Quadrants
…to create the world we want to live in, where people are connected to self, others and the earth.
- Integrity – acknowledging that there is, in fact, something we want, being able to ask for it and respecting the boundaries of the giver
- Generosity – being able to give with a full heart, without the need to get anything in exchange; setting aside what we want to allow another to find what they want
- Gratitude – feeling the joy of gratitude for the gift that has been given
- Surrender – experiencing ourselves as a gift and trusting ourselves to stay within the limits of our boundaries