Ways to Help

We have been collecting resources for our newsletter to share different ways to help others during both the Covid-19 pandemic as well as Black Lives Matter and social justice movement.  We don’t imagine that the need for help will be going away any time soon, so we’ll leave them here (and update periodically) for your reference.

Some of these are resources for you and some are ways you can help others.

Read/Watch/Listen

• 5 Sex Ed Lessons to Take to Protests
• Move Over, Love Languages: Do You Know Your ‘Route of Safety’?
• “I Didn’t Shave for You, Sorry.” And other phrases I no longer mind saying to my dates. On being true to yourself with your yes’s and no’s, and how that changes with time.
• The ‘3.5% rule’: How a small minority can change the world
• The Case Against Tickling: Laughter doesn’t always signal enjoyment, and “stop” should mean “stop.”
• Soul-Care for an Exalted Life: The Journey Beyond Healing Racial Battle Fatigue
• Nature Needs a New Pronoun: To Stop the Age of Extinction, Let’s Start by Ditching “It”
• A Buddhist teacher’s meditations on confronting white supremacy
• Carefully Forming a ‘Quarantine Bubble’ Can Fight Loneliness
• 2020 Is Our Last, Best Chance to Save the Planet
• On Being with Krista Tippett: Robin DiAngelo and Resmaa Menakem
• Why Forgiving Someone Else Is Really About You
• Consent – Identifying your InPowered vs Contracted ‘No’ and ‘Yes’, featuring Michael Dresser
• The Wisdom of Trauma – Gabor Mate
• Decolonization, Collective Liberation, & Intersectional Solidarity
• A Call To White People: Its Time to Live into the Answer
• Therapist: Trauma Is An Experience Of The Body. And We’re All Feeling It
• 5 Feelings White Allies May Not Realize Black Folks Have After Racist Tragedies
• What happens when I try to talk race with white people
• How Studying Privilege Systems Can Strengthen Compassion
• When Capital is More Valuable than Black Bodies Capital Must Be Disrupted, by Sonya Renee Taylor
• A Decade Of Watching Black People Die
• Equal Justice Initiative – Just Mercy (film) streaming free on Youtube
• The Dirty Loladex (Twitter list): BIPOC, LGBTQ and Disabled folks who talk about sex, sexuality, relationships, & social justice.
• For White Folks: Some Thoughts on Pausing, Listening & Responding; Or Why Nervous System Regulation Matters in Activism & Allyship
• Bryan Stevenson on Floyd Protests
• 10 Documentaries you can watch about race instead of asking a person of color to explain it to you
• Keedron Bryant. This young man. Just listen.
• COVID CARE: A Way Forward to Opening Up Social Circles – the Consent conversation everyone will need to have!
• I Study Human Touch. I’m Questioning What Our Future Will Be Like After COVID-19.
• What We Did About The Boy Who Was Hurting Us – A story about the Allow quadrant and how some parents and kids learned to speak up for themselves and also be kind.
• The truth about unwanted arousal – fascinating insight between expressing consent and how our bodies respond to arousal
• Going Green between the sheets: How to have an eco-friendly sex life (we see you Cyd Crossman!)
• NDIS funds may be used to pay for sex workers, court rules – Yay Australia!

Ways to Help/Donate

• Black Lives Matter – a list of ways to help, updated regularly
• How to support if you don’t have money to donate – YouTuber Zoe Amira is donating 100% of her ad revenue from this video to bail funds and memorial funds. Make sure to turn off your adblockers and let it play!
• Know Your Rights Legal Defense Fund
• Red Canary Song, A grassroots collective of Asian & Migrant SWs. More here.
• Emergency Support Fund for Sex Workers in Australia
• Mutual Aid Fund for Sex Workers of Color
• Homeless Black Trans women fund
• SWARM is a grassroots SW-led collective fighting criminalisation, supporting SWa & engaging in solidarity across issues of justice (P.S. Happy belated International Whores Day! June 2!)
• Lysistrata: Emergency Fund to support marginalized SWs in crisis
• Social Solidarity in Practice: Supporting SWs During the Coronavirus, by Woodhull Freedom Foundation
• Soliciting for Change fundraiser– By COYOTE (Call Off Your Old Tired Ethics) RI is a grassroots organization focusing on harm reduction, legal reform, and public education, led by sex workers, former sex workers, survivors of state violence and/or trafficking, and community allies.
• Supporting Creators, Entertainers & Gig Workers in the Era of Coronavirus
• Worldwide Empathy for Medics
• GLP SANI: sex-worker aid network initiative
• Sweet Rest – Show your support monthly and join a community of people saying YES to the importance of rest for Black women.

Resources

• Who to ask for your help about your bias – great guide for newbies to the social justice conversation.
• Anti-Racism Resource: From Ally to Accomplice — scaffolding approach to figure out where to start
• Healing From Racial Trauma Online Training June 8th w/ Milagros Phillips
• Cultural Somatics: FREE 5-day Racialized Trauma Training
• Blindspot: Hidden Biases of Good People – Implicit Association Bias test
• Pleasure Mechanics’ Anti Racist Embodied Action Toolkit
• Virtual protesting 101
• Kidpower – Covid-19 Safety Resources
• Street Somatics: Tips for Regulating During Uprisings, by Prentis Hemphill
• 7 Virtual Mental Health Resources Supporting Black People Right Now
• Racism and Violence: How to Help Kids Handle the News
• Dismantling Racism
• Anti-Racism Resources for White People: “Conscious/Spiritual/Leader” Edition
• Cyndi Darnell – offering mentoring and supervision, support and guidance with sexuality for professionals
• Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE®) classes ONLINE, with Shauna Farabaugh (50% off regular price! during the Covid-19 pandemic and shelter in place)
• ​Free Text Service Sends Daily Support To Isolated Trans People​
• ​How to Be Heard – free download – a 20 minute guide by Michael Dresser
• ​Human Online – Experience one minute of human presence and connection
• ​The Art of Us: Love, Loss, Loneliness, and a Pinch of Humor Under Lockdown – Video series and resources from Esther Perel
• ​Turn Your Quarantine Video Chats into a Podcast
• ​Free 21-day Pleasure Program, by Cyndi Darnell